I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. – Nelson Mandela

I started thinking about having the courage to write my first real blog/LinkedIn post…I was thinking about how to describe courage and I realized just how important it is.

For this blog, I will have the courage to write about my observations, even if they are not popular. I hope to induce emotions, insight, and meaningful conversation. Please comment!

Courage to be not who they want you to be.
Courage to say what is in your mind.
Courage to do the right thing.
Courage to stand up for what you believe.
Courage to let others stand up for what they believe.
Courage to speak up to ‘the big boss’.
Courage to listen to and embrace the wisdom of ‘the big boss’.
Courage to call out those that don’t do the right thing.
Courage to recognize those that do the right thing.
Courage to learn.
Courage to forget.
Courage to destroy.
Courage to forgive.
Courage to say it sucks.
Courage to say it is possible.
Courage to call bullshit.
Courage to know when not to call bullshit.
Courage to click send.
Courage to click delete (or save to drafts).
Courage to know when your research and knowledge are correct.
Courage to recognize when your research and knowledge are not correct.
Courage to walk away from a hostile situation.
Courage to stand up in a hostile situation.
Courage to find the solution to an impossible problem.
Courage to ask for help to an impossible problem.
Courage to be first.
Courage to be last.
Courage to shoot.
Courage to cease fire.
Courage to tackle the unknown.
Courage to seek others to join your tribe.
Courage to have a drink after a long day.
Courage to not have a drink at all.
Courage to destroy the competition.
Courage to encourage competition.
Courage to applaud the winner.
Courage to applaud the loser.
Courage to say “I am not offended by that event that happened 2000 miles away and had nothing to do with me, my family, or how I live”.
Courage to say “this must change”.
Courage to not vote for the least of the evil.
Courage to vote for ‘the one who won’t win’.
Courage to set the tone.
Courage to listen.
Courage to ignore.
Courage to lead.
Courage to follow.
Courage to encourage.
Courage to change.
Courage to make waves.
Courage to fan the flames.
Courage to have an adult conversation.
Courage to tell a joke at a funeral.
Courage to say I’m sorry.
Courage to laugh.
Courage to cry.

Courage to be unpopular.

Courage to be you.

You define you. It isn’t your upbringing, political affiliations, religion, or company. Have the courage to be you, even when those closest (or the media) don’t agree. Courage defines who you are.

As my friend Ever Aguilar said: Every decision you make has a ‘weight’ of courage. How much to put in? More, less? Have the courage to decide!


Trent Selbrede has almost 22 years in the hospitality industry with 5 of those years building websites and selling them to the industry. His hotel experience includes 8 hotel openings, 4 takeovers and managing 13 different locations. He has held virtually every leadership position in hotels, including dual general manager, and understands what it takes to build highly effective teams and deliver the highest results.

His personal passion begins with family time with his wife, 2 daughters, and 2 adopted dogs. He also enjoys home improvement projects, mountain biking, and golfing. He volunteers and participates in fundraising events with various organizations including CERT, The American Red Cross, Rady Children’s Hospital,Helen Woodward Animal Center and the Veterans Administration.

This blog is intended to induce, thought, emotion, and meaningful conversation. Trent is working to develop his own writing style but must give credit to those that have influenced him. His father, Rick (1942-2008) was the most influential person in his life. A few of his favorite authors include Seth Godin, Simon Sinek, James Altucher, Malcolm Gladwell, Jim Collins, Paul Marciano. He loves a good laugh. Some of his favorite comedians are Louis CK, Chris Rock, Eddie Murphy, George Carlin, Richard Pryor, Robin Williams, Mitch Hedberg, and Rodney Dangerfield.